For fifteen years, a friend of mine has worked for the same company. She had a parking space and an office. She frequented the same places for lunch, and went with the same friends. She honed her skills and contributed something unique that she alone could give. She made a home. She found her place. She belonged.
Last week, her position was eliminated, and she was let go.
I can only imagine what her final hours there were like – the last goodbyes, the elevator ride down, the walk to the car, the long drive home. And I suspect her mind has been flooded with questions like:
What do I do now?
Am I washed up – is it over for me?
I gave this the best years of my life – how am I supposed to start over again?
Where would I even begin?
How can I make it all on my own?
These are familiar questions to any of us who’ve felt the sting of great loss – be it our job, a relationship, or the passing of a loved one. We’ve all limped through days when some outside force swept into our lives like a storm, and messed up the good thing we had going.
We’ve all had Plan B thrust upon us.
Change is rarely easy, even when it’s for something we desire. Embracing the unknown road is uncomfortable and it costs us plenty – beginning with whatever security we’ve conjured up in our heads. Thing is, you get nowhere without it. Imagine having lived your life with no dramatic changes – no big moves. What if you’d settled in years ago, and that was that? You’d just be living the same old day and the same old year after year… THAT’S when you know you’re done. THAT’S when you know you’re finished.
Change is meant to be a catalyst for our good, even when it hurts.
It does hurt sometimes, and when it does, take the time to feel the pain of your loss. But also know this.
The sooner you can stop fighting it,
The quicker you can embrace it,
The sooner you can muster the words, “Thank you”, and see change as an opportunity instead of an injury, the sooner you’ll discover the next chapter of your story.
Sometimes something must die, something beautiful must be removed, something that defines us must be cleared from our lives to make space for a beautiful new thing.
Our new and better home.
Our new place to belong.
If you know someone in a season of change and you think this might encourage them, please pass this along.