I’m broken and unfixable.
My life is what it is.
I’m too old. My best days are behind me.
I don’t have time.
I’m good, but not good enough. Someone always beats me out.
Once I learn more about it, I’ll step out.
I’ve got ideas, but no one will give me a chance.
If I let myself really care about someone, they’ll break my heart.
I’m going to fail, and everyone’s watching.
I’ll never have a family.
She’s going to cheat on me.
I can’t get out of this hole.
I know I shouldn’t, but I can’t stop. I have to.
I’ve lost the thing that made me special.
I don’t have enough ________.
If you’re like me, it hurts even to read that list. But did some of it feel familiar? It did to me.
I asked several people in my life to anonymously share the message that creeps into their head and privately taunts them. This is part of the list that has formed so far. Keep in mind, these are uncommon people. They’re leaders of their industries, the center of their circles, and some of the smartest and most effective people I know. They’re doers. They’re popular. Many of them wise, some of them famous.
And yet each of them has vicious, paralyzing lies swirling around in their heads. Lies that are eager to make them believe they’re not enough, that the obstacles in their way are too great for them to overcome. Lies that would surely derail them if they let them linger and didn’t deal with them swiftly.
And so it is with you and me.
Were you to quiet yourself and ask, “What is the lie I’m listening to?”, you’d be stunned at the list you could make. Maybe some of these thoughts would make it onto your list, or maybe yours would look completely different. Regardless, like everyone walking the face of the earth, there’s a battle raging in your heart and mind between the person you were meant to be – and a second rate, apathetic, lazy and scared, counterfeit version of yourself.
We win or lose this battle by what we choose to believe – truth or lies. It’s a simple, but life altering fact: If you’re beaten in your mind, you’re beaten before you even begin. Period. Every time.
Think about it. If you think your efforts are for nothing – that you don’t have enough time or potential, that this is all there is, that it’s too late for you – then why in the world would you waste even one minute trying? What kind of dummy would you have to be to make a change if you believed your fate was sealed? And so you stand still… which, ironically, actually does seal your fate.
As we think, so we are. So it’s worth truly considering –
- What is the lie you’re listening to?
- What has it cost you to believe it?
- What would be possible if you decided to change your mind?
- What’s stopping you?